We are categorically unfathomable

We will never fully make the unknown understood

Yet we can make the journey into the unknown more familiar

I believe that, fundamentally, psychotherapy is about assisting ourselves in the lifelong task of becoming fully human. Like many important paths, this is a journey ever to be walked, and perhaps never to be fully reached; it is a process of coming home.

Throughout life, we strive to move towards achievements, desires and goals - oftentimes with inherited and acquired limitations. We believe we need to be 'a certain way' to be acceptable, loved or welcomed into the world. We shape ourselves, we form ourselves around these beliefs so that we could belong; in order to attain love and acceptance. And yet, something is still awaiting acceptance, something is still awaiting a welcoming.

One wants to only be seen as a good person - for you to only see how clever, how interesting, how creative and 'together' he or she is. We work really hard for nobody to see our mood swings, our  impatience and our utter ignorance and insecurities. Perhaps if nobody witnesses all these sides of us, we delude ourselves, they will eventually disappear and one day we'll be perfect!

What a paradox, our soul is yearning to be fully seen, to be fully active and manifesting in the world - and yet parts of us still play hide and seek.

We cry for each other - only see me as this (strong, competent, ok) and underneath we are begging to be seen fully - and still be  welcomed into the world.

And yes - psychotherapy involves many tools to work through attitudinal changes, habitual changes and to grow beyond problems. I have gained experience in working with people with depressive illnesses and anxiety disorders, with personality disorders and eating disorders and with many other beautifully medical or psychological labels.

Some of the difficulties can shift – substantially so. Change really is possible. Some of the pains are there to stay – and we can only change our way of relating to them, our orientation towards it. And however much we change and grow, life is still full of beauty – and of pain; of growth and goodness – and of unfathomable suffering. No therapy can ever change that. This is our lot as humans.

As a therapist, my commitment to service and to my clients means that I will do my best to help you ease some of your pains, accept others; to change what is changeable and accept the unchangeable. It means that we would work together towards achieving your goals. But it means more than this – it means that we shall enter a relationship, and do our best to be real in this relationship – sharing what it means to be human-beings in relation.

The professional boundaries and frame of the therapeutic relationship make it safe for us to dare and be more human.

So what does it mean, practically?

In my training, I was looking (and still am) for approaches that allowed a ‘way in’, to reach and touch as deeply as possible into what matters, and meet at the point between our light (what we want seen) and our shadows. I have created Integrative-Mindbody-Therapy (IMT), which is my own way of learning and exploring.

IMT combines various psychotherapeutic approaches with bodywork, body-psychotherapy, hypnosis and NLP – and a lot of other stuff. I used to work with these different modalities separately, but I no longer do that – how can I encourage integration if I am so fragmented? And so, if you work with me, we will be in a relationship, within which we can negotiate, explore and find the threshold of our humanity – and try to stretch it a bit.

The different sub-sections in the Therapy section, are here to honour and acknowledge the different approaches and people I have been influenced and informed by, and to supply some theoretical background for them. This information, and these articles are dead without you – and they (like me) need a relationship with you to become meaningful – so you are welcome to play with them – to respond or process, to digest or disagree, to ignore or skip.

And may your explorations be fruitful and joyous !